I watched a gentleman pursue a young lady by buying everyone at her table their meals and drinks. He had never met her or anyone else at the table. He paid the ticket for 4 adults and 2 kids he didn't know, all to win her heart.

As I left I told him thank you for the generosity and that it was very nice to meet him. He replied it did him no good she was not interested. I just smiled and left.

This is what I wanted to say to him and all of you who need to hear it, IF MONEY IS THE WAY TO HER HEART, YOU DO NOT WANT HER HEART.

I also wondered what made him think he had to buy his way in. Did he have so little worth of himself or was that something he had been taught. I did not exchange many words with him so I will never really know.

Here is what I want you to know as well, YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN YOUR CREDIT LINE AND WHAT YOU DO FOR A LIVING.

Thank goodness she did not have the mentality that she OWED him something for his generosity. She had let him know that she did not want him to buy her anything, he did anyway. She told him no politely and with grace. He took it with grace as well.

A GOOD PERSON WILL NOT CARE WHAT IS IN YOUR WALLET BUT WHAT IS IN YOUR HEART AND SOUL.

That's who's heart you want.

Decisions and Empowerment

As a Happiness Coach, I listen while people speak of their lot in life, their situations, their current environment of living. I listen to not only what they are saying, but also what they are telling me by their pauses, body language, facial expressions, sarcasm and tone. There is so much to be heard. People have a NEED to be heard. More rare than touch, being heard can heal so much internal and external chaos. What I have heard the most recently is people do not feel they are empowered. They do not realize they have the power to make decisions about their life. They do not realize they are making decisions by not making a decision. They let life happen to them and then wonder what happened to their life. They quit speaking because no one was listening. They gave up trying because no one was pleased. They quit deciding because it was too much effort. They gave up their power, their self, their ideas, their voice, their life. There is only so much sacrificing you can do and still remain true to yourself.

In their struggle to find their happiness, they have to find themselves. They have to find their empowerment.

In finding their voice, their decision making, their inner strength, they will find their empowerment, their happiness.

You have to take control of your life before you can help others around you.

YOU HAVE TO MAKE DECISIONS FOR YOURSELF THAT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY.

Jen Cook Happiness Coach

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Why do we inflame each other? Why do we continually post and poke at each other? Don't you know, inflammation is the silent killer. It is caused by stress, poor diet and many other life circumstances we CAN control. It leads to so many other diseases; auto-immune deficiency, lupus, ms, cancer, parkinsons, and so many more, too many to name here.

So why do we keep inflaming each other? Why do we keep posting things for the sake of arguing or a rant or to harm another? Why do we poke at each other, consistently putting each other down and kicking the one's already down?

Just think how healthy we would be if we just stopped doing that one thing. If we stopped posting those false beliefs as truths, if we stopped poking hatred into others and if we stopped putting each other down.

Post the positive, post the truth if it is helpful and you know it to be the truth, poke a hole in your beliefs and see if they hold water, poke a finger at yourself and take responsibility for your actions and last but not least, lift people up, give them a hand up, let them stand on your shoulders to see a better world for themselves, lift yourself up to higher standards.

Let's kill inflammation and save our lives and those we love.