What exactly is a rebound?
Isn't everyone after your very first crush, hand-holding or kiss a rebound? Is there a time period on a relationship that decides the next person is or is not a rebound? Is it the type of relationship; married, living together, engaged? For that matter, does love have a monopoly on the rebound or can you rebound friends, jobs or hobbies? My thoughts this morning after having some rebound discussions with different people, everyone is a rebound from the previous person.
I hear a lot of people say they do not want to be the rebound-person. I get it, been there done that, didn't even get a t-shirt. However, someone has to be that person, why not me or you. Sometimes rebounds work out really well and sometimes not so much, that can be said for any relationship. Sometimes rebounds can just be about the temporary fun you both can have before moving on. Often we need to prove to ourselves we can get back in there and survive it again. Each time it hurts less because there was already a rip there.
Which brings me to the "I don't want to get hurt or hurt you" phrase. I am pretty sure both will happen at some point if you are in any kind of relationship with another human. I will hurt you, not intentionally, but hurt is hurt. You will hurt me, hopefully not intentionally, but hurt is hurt. A lot of hurt we do to ourselves by having expectations of others. Ok, most of the time. We are an ego driven species. If you are reading this, you have survived all the hurt in your life so far, congratulations! There will be more if you are lucky.
Do you miss the adventure for fear of hurt? Do you sit on the sidelines of life protecting yourself? Doesn't that hurt more? I would think stagnation in life could be pretty painful, but maybe we don't recognize it because it has become a comfort-zone for us and our feelings.
Go out there and be the rebound, dive in head first and be open to whatever comes next even if it is painful. You Will Survive and who knows, you might even Thrive. Give that person that is "not your type" a chance, how's "your type" working out for you so far? Yeah, thought so. Want something from someone, ask them, they can not read your mind and we know some species of a certain sexual orientation that don't even take hints very well either so Spell It Out. If you don't ask, you don't get. If they can not provide you with what you need, it is not their short-comings or your's, it is just not a match. Never be afraid of running someone off by asking for what you need from them, if they can not provide it, they need to be set-free anyway so you both can find what you need. Really is that simple.
Be respectful of where people are at that moment in their lives without losing respect for where you are in your life. Most of all Respect Yourself in All Things.
Remember, I love you and I am here for you.
Peace, Love and Just Live It!
